While it might be convenient for a stationer and calligrapher to share the many reasons why paper is an important part of your wedding day, I fully understand that I’m also speaking to future brides and grooms here! So, we’re changing things up a little bit with this blog and bringing in a recent bride to share her thoughts on why you shouldn’t skip out on paper when you’re planning your wedding. Without further adieu, I’ll let Madison take it from here!
Hi there! I’m Madison Emanuelo, a former client of ElisaAnne Calligraphy and a newlywed of six months strong. Our wedding was in October 2018 and it was truly the best day of our lives and an absolute dream come true. When we became engaged, I made the decision that we would forgo a wedding planner and handle every detail of our big day myself, because I’m obviously a crazy person. So, with my vision in mind and strategy in hand, we got started. As we put the plans in motion - my, then fiancé, now husband, and I were decently apathetic about having an actual invitation suite for our wedding.
Sure, you can call us “millennials” or the product of a digital society, but as we began planning our big day, paper wasn’t a part of it. We were on the fast lane to saving that money for the bar or a few additional hours with the band. Hopefully my parents never read this (LOL), but if it weren’t for them and their persistence of tradition - we likely would’ve passed by on what rapidly became our favorite detail and project of the entire wedding.
Invitations Are the First Impression
Here’s the bottom line, before they catch a glimpse of your venue, before they awe at the beauty of your dress, your guests will see your invitations. Throughout my planning process, I learned that wedding stationery is like a window into the future and is also a first impression of you and your spouse-to-be. It gives a taste of what’s to come at your wedding and can elicit emotion and excitement from the moment your guests open the envelope.
The amount of text messages, Snapchats and Instagram stories we received as people opened up our invitations was enough to obliterate my data and make me smile even on the most stressful day. And yes, there will be guests that simply toss them aside, but there will be PLENTY who hang on to them because they’re just that excited for you! There were a number of guests who loved receiving a calligraphy addressed invitation to their home and they’ve kept them on display in their house.
Paper Helps With Planning
Say that ten times fast! With all of the features that electronic invitations that come with, I will say that our decision to go with paper gave us an extra level of control over who was actually being invited and the RSVP process. Sending our hand-addressed invitations provided exclusivity that didn’t allow for confusion in who the invitation was intended for.
Additionally, by customizing our RSVP card, we were able to fill in the number of guests each invitation included as well. While the method isn’t fool-proof, it still provided a barrier for the inevitable questions and sneaky RSVP’s.
Coming from a bride who has seen both options, seeing the dollar amount that you are investing in paper invitations for your wedding is an easy way to put a cap on the guest count and last minute invitations. (Specifically that last minute guilt or a parent trying to add a guest to the list). When all of the invitations are gone - they’re gone!
Sure, you might have some extras if someone is invited last second, but it’ll be noticeable that they don’t have the hand-addressed envelope. It’s not as feasible to have that cap when you can send another email out. You catch my drift here?
We’ll Treasure OUR WEDDING INVITATIONS Forever
Taking the time to sit, create, envision and work with a stationer, like ElisaAnne Calligraphy brought so much joy to a stressful and chaotic season, especially with the super personal and intimate details she was able to include in these pieces of paper. My hesitation in creating a traditional wedding invitation suite came from worry that it would be “too formal,” which wasn’t the vibe we were going for at our wedding.
After sitting down and explaining my vision, we were able to mold tradition and personality together into an invitation suite that was unique to us as a couple and shared some subtle elements of our relationship. From a venue illustration and portraits of our sweet animals (LOOK AT THEM), our invitation is something we will treasure for the rest of our lives.
They’re also the gift that keeps on giving! I’ve had friends turn my invitations into ornaments, friends have framed their envelopes for decoration, we were able to put them in frames for presents and so much more.
Will I Care About Them Afterwards?
While the day has come and gone, the cake has been eaten and the thank you notes are completely finished (I’m lying), I’ve had many details to reflect on and so many memories from our special day. There’s a few elements that I would probably have done differently, like skip the cocktail hour or not stressed so much about the color of the table linens that nobody noticed.
However, I can say from the bottom of my heart that investing in paper was one of the best decisions that we could have made. My parents have their invitation framed in their house and I’m dearly looking forward to doing the same with ours for safekeeping!